The Sanctuary 4 Parents
Where Nonviolent Communication, Mindfulness, Self-Compassion and Practical Brainscience 
Inform and Support our Parenting Journey

Nonviolence is more than "not being physically violent.” Nonviolence represents a way of being with a quality of presence that is rooted in the commitment to honor the integrity of another human being (and our own).

NVC is a way of living — how we relate to others and ourselves. It is a way of communicating that supports connection with and compassion for ourselves and others. Out of this connection, everyone's needs are valued and we regain our natural joy in giving.

Learning NVC is learning to:

• Build relationships based on compassion, connection and choice

• Accurately understand other people's feelings and needs

• Be assertive and open at the same time

• Break patterns of thinking that lead to anger and depression

• Dissolve the fear of rejection

• Cope with demands without giving in or becoming defensive

• Encourage the reconnecting process of repair when ruptures in relationships happen

As a practice, Nonviolent Communication:

• Facilitates the flow of communication needed to guide the conversation toward synergistic solutions

• Focuses on shared human values and needs

• Transforms potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues

• Encourages the use of language that increases good will, and compassion for ourselves and others

• Empowers to know where to go from “NO”

• Provides an alternative to language that contributes to fear, guilt and shame, and therefore resentment or lowered self-esteem​
Some of NVC’s Contributions at a Glance:

• Non-judgmental approach that fosters unconditional love for self and others

• Deeply rooted in spiritual and social change traditions

• Sustains the radical shift in consciousness needed for transforming the existing domination paradigm instead of making superficial changes

• Recognizes the social context of healing and transformation and encourages community building, not just individual skill-building

• Aligned with latest brain research and parenting strategies that encourage early attachment and bonding, and extends them beyond infancy


The PPLP is a nine-month leadership training program aimed at nurturing and developing leaders who are committed to spreading and sharing NVC to parents in their communities, around the world, especially in those regions where there are no NVC trainers. 

Co-lead by CNVC certified trainers Stephanie Bachmann Mattei and Ingrid Bauer, the PPLP aims at providing new leaders with the experience, skills and support they need to successfully support other parents who want to learn and practice NVC in their families.

The purpose of the PPLP is to support such leaders to deepen their capacity to:
1. Understand NVC – to have clarity about NVC practices and the consciousness underlying these practices;
2. Live NVC – to integrate NVC consciousness and skills in daily life and in your family; 
3. Share NVC – to have the skills, awareness and support needed to begin to: • share NVC principles and practices with parents • model NVC consciousness in the learning/teaching process.

The PPLP was originally created in 2006 by Inbal Kashtan (a CNVC Certified Trainer, co-founder of BayNVC and author of Parenting from Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection and Choice) as a program of the Peaceful Families, Peaceful World Project of the International Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC for more info please click here).

THE CALF PROGRAM ~ The Candidates Active Learning Forum

Imagine showing up fully for this adventure called life -a life enriched and empowered by the language and consciousness of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Imagine having a group of peers that support you on your path to certification from the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) (no matter who your assessor is), or on your path to offering NVC training without CNVC certification. Imagine manifesting your potential as an NVC facilitator by giving and receiving feedback with peers, certified trainers and assessors. Imagine intentionally contributing to growing the seeds of empathy and compassion in yourself, others and the world!

The CALF program is an adventure in being and becoming our authentic selves through knowing, sharing and living Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Within this caring community, CALF team members and participants accompany one another on a journey of blossoming into the fullness of ourselves through exploration, self-empowerment, self-responsibility, and increasing inner and outer resources.

Our focus is on:
Being rather than doing
Shifting from a life of power-over or power-under to power-with
Increasing awareness of how our actions and interactions impact the relationship with ourselves (I), our relationships with others (You), and what we co-create together (We).
Join us in the CALF program and experience the benefits which our program and community have to offer.: