The Sanctuary 4 Parents
Where Nonviolent Communication, Mindfulness, Self-Compassion and Practical Brainscience 
Inform and Support our Parenting Journey


Give yourself the gift of self-understanding, 
self-compassion and inner growth!
"It may help you to know that Nonviolent Communication grew from my attempt to understand the concept of love and how to manifest it. 

I had come to the conclusion that love is not just something we feel, but something we manifest, something we give. 

It’s a gift when you reveal yourself nakedly and honestly, at any given moment, for no other purpose than to reveal what’s alive in you. 
To me, that giving is a manifestation of love.

It’s a gift when we try to hear what is alive in the other person and what that person would like. 

So, Nonviolent Communication is just a manifestation of what I understand love to be. 

Nonviolent Communication helps me stay connected with that beautiful Divine Energy within myself and to connect with it in others. It’s the closest thing to 'love' I’ve ever experienced."                                             

~ Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg
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Parenting is full of paradoxes.

It can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life and one of the most daunting.

It may be lived as an invitation to bring out the best in ourselves and, in times of stress, it can actually bring out the worst in us. 

One moment we are passionately committed to nurturing our kids with unconditional love and the next moment we lose it and soberly experience the conditionality of the human condition.

We want to honor our heartfelt vision about how we want to relate to our children, and at times we feel totally lost and overwhelmed by the hugely different parenting approaches that are available to us nowadays. 

SELF-COMPASSION
MINDFULNESS
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION
( NVC )
"Mindfulness means paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, without judgment. 

It is more aptly described as a way of being, or a way of seeing, one that involves “coming to one’s senses” in every meaning of that phrase. 

It certainly implies developing and refining a way of becoming more intimate with one’s own experience through systematic self-observation. 

This included intentionally suspending the impulse to characterize, evaluate, and judge what one is experiencing.

Doing so affords multiple opportunities to move beyond the well-known grooves of our highly conditioned and largely habitual and unexamined thought processes and emotional reactivity."

~ Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D.
"Mindful self-compassion is a form of acceptance of ourselves while we experience pain. We care for ourselves because we are suffering. We accept ourselves, the pain & our reactions to the pain.

Self-compassion can transform even the worst times of our lives.

Mindful self-compassion is the foundation of emotional healing—being aware in the present moment when we're struggling with feelings of inadequacy, despair, confusion, and other forms of stress (mindfulness) and responding with kindness and understanding (self-compassion). Mindful self-compassion also means holding difficult emotions—fear, anger, sadness, shame and self-doubt—in loving awareness, leading to greater ease and well-being in our daily lives."

~ Christopher Germer, Ph.D.

PRACTICAL BRAINSCIENCE
"When we consider the mind as an embodied and relational process that regulates the flow of energy and information, we come to realize that we can actually use the mind to change the brain.

The simple truth is that how we focus our attention, how we intentionally direct the flow of energy and information through our neural circuits, can directly alter the brain’s activity and its structure. 

The key is to know the steps toward using our awareness in ways that promote well-being.

Harnessing our minds to change our brains is to build the circuits of kindness and well-being moment by moment, one person, one relationship at a time."

~ Dr. Daniel Siegel